Here’s a song I wrote two days ago, or was it yesterday? haha. It’s called ‘What About Coco Pesto?’ and it’s pretty self explanatory 🙂 check out my Soundcloud if you have the time. If you like flowers and ukuleles you can also have a look at my Instagram 😉
Gotta stay positive, everyone goes through breakups right? I will be okay, right? Can someone confirm?? haha
Good night I leave you with this adorable Corgi ❤
My last post wasn’t a hopeful poem, it was about how sometimes love seems to be this vicious cycle of hope, joy, disenchantment and heartache. I know it is not always the case, but I think everyone would agree upon the fact that it can sometimes be quite easy to let yourself fall into pessimism. I was thinking about my bad experiences, about those of my friends and couldn’t help but feel like a sad ending is almost always inevitable.
Right now, I am feeling way more positive about love because I am having a good day and I am training myself to focus less on the negative and more on the bright side of things. This is important as there is no point in expecting the worst when things are going great unless you are planning on sabotaging your happiness.
However, these thoughts and this poem, stuck with me and made me curious about people’s love stories, how they started, how they went and how they ended. As I am in Zagreb at the moment, I remembered that it is the home of a rather peculiar but also really touching museum called the Museum of Broken Relationships.
I felt like this was the ideal place for me to go with all my thoughts, doubts and clouded judgments about the past and the future and it truly was. It was not only a fun experience that I shared with my boyfriend, it was actually really moving and a boost creatively speaking. It felt empowering at times, hopeful but also really deeply sad.
Basically, the Museum of Broken Relationships is a place to which people have donated objects that symbolize a relationship they had. Next to the object you will not only be told how long the relationship lasted whether it was for a day, a week or 30 years but also get to read a little personal description.
Some of these descriptions are little summaries, others are poems and my favorite ones are just simple sentences that say it all (e.g.: A jersey of some sport, maybe basketball and the phrase “He was a player.”). It is all random, personal and somewhat magical as they take you to the most intimate part of some strangers feelings and the core of what they shared with their significant other at the time. You go through bitter statements to really sweet ones and it is just an emotional roller coaster! I urge everyone to go straight to Zagreb to see it.
What I liked the most about this museum was the overall message of hope and freedom. These objects were given by people wanting to let go, wanting to finally move on and leave pain and regrets behind. One of the features of the place was a “Confessional”, a large album in which every visitor could leave a comment, an experience, a signature, a drawing, anything really.
A few months ago I chose to forgive someone who hurt me really badly and as time goes by I can tell that I am healing slowly. However, I still have nightmares and quite often bitterness comes back and leaves this feeling of resentment and fear.What if I made a mistake by letting this person back into my life? What if the story repeats itself? There goes my positivity down the drain!
In my opinion, doubting is worse than anything, I took my decision and I just need to let go or I will never be able to fully forgive. In that perspective, I left a confession in the Museum’s album in hopes it will maybe help me move on as it is now exposed among other abandoned baggage. Writing my experience down felt like saying to myself that I am ready to stop reliving the past. Hopefully, this is going to turn out to be more than some wannabe symbolic moment haha
The Museum of Broken Relationships (MBR) is a great experience that is more than just sad stories and break-ups, and I can’t even put it all into words. I will just strongly suggest that you check it out as it is beautiful and different from anything that is out there!
There are two MBRs in the world, one in Zagreb and one in Los Angeles. However, exhibitions are held all around the world and you can visit their website on which you can have a look at some shared stories, share your own and even choose to contribute by sending an item. I am already planning on spending a lot of time on that website haha !!
I haven’t felt so excited about something in a while so I really wanted to share it with the world and while I am at it, I’ll share this song from the wonderfuly talented youtuber Dodie Clark. Enjoy 🙂
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edit: Where I am it is still the 31st, 5pm
To be honest I was starting to get sick of all the memes, status, and articles about how shit 2016 has been. I am not about to deny the fact that horrible things have happened. They have and I remember that I have been horrified, scared and saddened more than once this year.
However, I feel that the main thing that was wrong this year, compared to the ones preceding it, is the way the media sensationalized every bad thing, every crime, and every negative opinion.
I am not about to share my opinions on how the media functions or on what is going on in the political world because I honestly feel very ignorant on both fronts. Still, I wanted to express my frustration with this trend of bashing 2016! I don’t think any year is perfect, wars and revolutions and poverty have been going on for years and years however where there is bad, you can find good even on a small level.
Thus, originally I wanted to make my own little list of the good things that had happened in the world in 2016 (there are plenty!) but realized many people had the same idea as me (which is great!).
So instead I am just going to share three articles that list some of the good that 2016 provided. One I really like because it not only lists 99 Good Things That Happened in 2016 but also backs every point with an article, in order to look deeper into that positive matter. I didn’t see the point in repeating or copying what many other people have started to do, however, I am happy to point them out.
- Amazing list of ‘Good Things’ that happened in 2016 delighted the internet
- The 99 best things that happened in 2016, from Ebola’s eradication in West Africa to saving the manatees (Btw the frustration with that list is real when it is only 99 things and it could have been a 100 haha!)
- And Matt Strange’s post with whom I share some of the feelings he expressed o
Right, Fuck it, I’m done with ‘OMG 2016 was terrible’, here’s some fucking awesome things that happened, you’re welcome, Merry fucking Christmas
take some time to look at the fucking good and beauty in this world, good shit is happening, learn it, support it, be part of it.
I just started this blog (still don’t know why btw) so not many people follow it. However, those that do or you, new reader, I would like to ask you to name a good thing that happened to you this year.
I refuse to believe that so many people experienced such bad 12months. I personally started this year with some serious money issues, a lot of stress regarding graduation, and without going so far as to say I experienced a certain level of depression, I know I have felt very unhappy for long periods at times where I didn’t want to do anything but hide in my room.
But here I am on the 31st of December 2016 and I can say this:
- This year was significantly better than 2015 for me. I have had the luck to start it living in what had been my dream location for the past 5 to 6 years. Beautiful and sunny Australia.
- I think I got very confused this year and I have let myself feel these things which I am grateful for because I feel that I got to know myself on a deeper level. (Still confused tho haha)
- I have traveled a lot, I have met beautiful and loving people and I came back to another bunch of great people giving me the great joy of still making me feel like I have a home.
- I have taken more risks. I am terrified of what is to come but I have no regrets. 2016 has given me a lot of excitement and paved the way to more of it in 2017.
So what about you? What are some positive things you will take away from this year?
And also: What Are You Doing New Year’s Eve?
HAPPY NEW YEAR
I am sending loads of positive vibes your way!
I have wanted to write a song for a while now, I knew which chords I wanted to use but somehow rhythm and lyrics didn’t come to me easily. For weeks I felt frustrated as if there was something stuck in me that I needed to push out somehow.
Of course, it’s like anything when you try and force something to happen, it doesn’t. Another thing is, these last weeks I have been feeling really happy and fulfilled. I am traveling around, I have been in Budapest and Zagreb and right now I am back in France.
Although all of this is awesome, I have noticed that my creativity (
Gee that sounds pretentious) really depends on my mood and is at its peak when I feel upset. I have mentioned this in an older post Music is The (my) Answer to Everything. So it is somehow frustrating because I still want to be creative when I am happy but I just don’t know how.
Can someone help??
As I was leaving Zagreb to go home for Christmas, I left someone I deeply love behind. Even though I know we will be reunited soon, it felt difficult to leave him due to things that have happened between us in the past.
Driving past frostbitten landscape I couldn’t help but feel a little bit lonely. However, as my thoughts wandered I realized that paradoxically the reason why I felt so lonely in that moment, is because I actually have someone that I love and who loves me back… it inspired me because it calmed some of the doubts that I had about this relationship.
Finally, I came up with lyrics, a few days later I came up with a melody. I like it, it’s not genius, but it’s how I feel and I wanted to share it. Enjoy the CHEESINESS haha.
Where he sits, is where you sleep
His head on your shoulder
While on his lap, you stretch your legs
He brings you comfort, your bring him warmth
And any place becomes a home
That’s when you know
If an hour away seems to long
That’s when you know
As just a thought can make you smile
That’s when you feel from deep within
You can look at tomorrow with him….
A poet once said
Distance is to love
What wind is to fire
A breeze threatened their flames
But seamlessly stronger, the fire grew
It cannot be extinguished nor tamed
As they united more than flesh
No doubts remained
When you not scared of the work ahead
When you’re ready, when you want it
That’s when you know it is right …. He is right
I am a huge ukulele fan. It feels like I have always been a huge ukulele fan but to be honest, the passion that I now have for this instrument started only a year ago when my boyfriend bought me a little blue ukulele for Christmas.
I played a little bit of guitar before, I am not very good at it and I never took classes but since the first time I picked up a guitar, it has always been a great pleasure of mine. I tried to thrive and improve myself but my performance seemed to plateau. I had to admit that it was probably time for me to get classes (which I still need to do).
I felt frustrated by guitar and played less until my blue ukulele came into my life and brought back the excitement of stringed instruments! Ukuleles are so fun to play with and their cheerful sound never fails to brighten up my day. I am in love. This was the best present anyone has ever gotten me. BEST PRESENT EVER!
This little walk down memory lane wasn’t for nothing, I swear. I wanted to explain why I started to get into ukulele before getting to my point… After almost a year of owning a ukulele, I feel like I have reached a new plateau and the frustration I was getting with guitar is back.
Two days ago while I was looking up a ukulele tutorial from The Ukulele Teacher’s YouTube channel (check him out, he’s great!), I spotted a video on the suggestion bar called “Most incredible GIRLS playing UKULELE in the world!“. The caps, the words “ukulele” and “incredible” captured my attention. I had to check out these girls! Honoka (18) and Azita (15), two young and extremely talented Hawaiian girls shredding the ukulele and just sharing their beautifully contagious smiles.
As I watched the video I was just overwhelmed with feelings of admiration but also happiness (I am sure you just felt the same! Right? 😀) When these two girls play ukulele you can feel their love and passion for the instrument and music itself. In addition, their technique is simply mind-blowing!
I got sucked into watching several videos on their YouTube channel “Honoka and Azita” and just felt my frustration with ukulele turn into motivation! I will probably need a teacher at some point but for now I mainly need to hold on and keep exercising. If I really love ukulele as much as I say, I will make sure that I get better. Thanks to the inspiring Honoka and Azita I feel like I have a new found motivation that will help me achieve new goals and maybe one day I will be able to play with them and keep up (I am allowed to dream…no? haha).
More or less unrelated
My step-father has led on several times that he might get me a better ukulele for Christmas… I hope it’s true, I love my little blue ukulele but let’s be honest it is more of a toy than a proper instrument!
16 days until Christmas!
I will leave you with this lovely cover because, yes, these girls sing too!
Down? Listening to sad music as catharsis!
Some of you might disagree with this just like a lot of my friends. They are always trying to convince me not to watch a romantic comedy when I have a heartache, not to listen to sad songs when I feel down. However, to me that is THE solution when I feel low: giving in to the
sadness completely, connect with the feelings that I am told to repress. A sad song with a moving melody and lyrics that hit where it hurts is how you get all this out of your system! I have a good cry, I sing along and suddenly it is like I put down some of what was weighing on me. It never fails (at least for me) to chase the clouds stopping me from seeing the positive side of things. At least for a little bit. Long enough to consider making plans on how to feel better on a long term basis.
Nonetheless, after reading an article about how sad songs can make people who suffer from depression feel worse it got me thinking that maybe my friends are right, it isn’t always good to stay in a cocoon of melancholy depending on who you are and what your issue is. It is really interesting to me because even though I am not saying you should just drown into sad melodies, I really thought that somehow it was the same for everyone. First, you feel sad. Then, you put yourself in a sad comfort of songs and movies that convey how you feel. It makes you feel less alone and understood. Finally, later on, you start getting into phase two: dancing and singing to happy music! That is my simple and maybe unoriginal solution.
Dancing and singing for motivation!
I was going to write this whole post only from my perspective of things and then I found so many articles just saying the same thing I was thinking in a clearer manner and validated by studies and/or testimonies! Singing on top of your lungs and dancing to your favorite songs is just the best thing anyone can do in case of stress.
I agree that when you feel down it is hard to get into it straight away (again, at least for me). However, after the first part is done (see above) you can try putting some groovy music on and it just draws you in without you even noticing! It releases the stress, the anguish and fills your body up with dopamine which is a neurotransmitter that controls the reward and pleasure center of the brain. It helps you regulate emotions so YOU WANT IT! (Forget about the part where dopamine contributes to your sugar addiction haha).
DANCE ‘TILL YOU FEEL BETTER!
I let you check-out these two articles that talk about it a lot better than I do:
Making music: composing, writing, playing an instrument!
THIS! This is where I really wanted to get at! It is not about being a good musician, but about channeling all the negative energy and turn it into something positive, something nice. It is a challenge that is rewarding no matter what. You get the emotions out on paper, or while making loud noises with that new instrument you just picked up and/or you create a hit and become the new Adele!
The result doesn’t matter as much as the action itself. To me, it seems like it is a way to realize that sadness isn’t just there to make you feel like shit but has an energy that can be used to do things, to create, an energy to push you. Sadness has a creative energy. Actually, this is a thing that frustrates me sometimes because I feel like I can only be totally creative and active when I am feeling down, maybe it is just me but it appears that a lot of great songs that go through the years unforgotten and are considered as great achievement started out from an artist’s low point.
Use your downs to create new ups, for me it is writing songs
(I may not be good at it, but it makes me happy so I will not put that ukulele down haha), for you maybe it is painting, creating a business whatever really, just channel all these feelings and instead of letting them dragging you down use them to lift yourself up.
Music is beneficial in general!
I focused so much on sadness that I forgot to get it back to the point: Music is my answer to everything! I can’t focus? I listen to music! I have a boring course to learn by heart? I turn it into a song! I need motivation? I make myself an uplifting playlist! I feel like I am in a bad mood? I listen to that same playlist and so on.
Playing music is the activity that stimulates the most brain regions, so it can only be beneficial to make some and to listen to it. Amongst other things it improves memory and coordination.
Again, someone talked about it a lot better than I could so I refer you to that last article on how music can help improve your productivity: https://www.helpscout.net/blog/music-productivity/
I leave you to it! Bust a move with James!